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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Boys: I Don't Care About You If You Don't Wear Vans
Lets start off by covering the basics. Everyone, I'm not as materialistic as everything in this post sounds. I'm actually the biggest grub ever and I wear the same shit week to week and I thrift all of my clothes and/or steal them from my ex's closet. I actually have very little standards for dudes that I date. Just the bare basics such as human decency. Respect. Confidentiality.
By Lauren Day8 years ago in Humans
3 Things That Lead to Heartbreak
One of my most important functions as a dating and relationship coach is to help people get over heartbreak. Before I can help anyone find the love of their life, it’s crucial that they truly let go of their past. If you’re currently struggling with a broken heart, check out this video I made about how to get over heartbreak here.
By Heart Centered Universe8 years ago in Humans
Relationship Red Flags
Toxicity in a relationship is never something that is present from the beginning. An unhealthy relationship, like any other relationship, brings joy from the new experience together. There may be a few early signs that your partner may show, but the main factor that makes us feel trapped in a toxic relationship is how comfortable we are with our partner. Things start off great and over time slowly deteriorate right in front of your eyes. But after you realize that your happiness is fading, you are afraid to leave. Sometimes the fear comes from physical abuse in the relationship but it is also very common for the problem to root from emotional and mental abuse. However, at this point you feel so comfortable with your partner and this life is the only way you know. You’ve forgotten how you lived before you entered this relationship. You’re constantly hanging on a thread that things will get better. Their promises are always empty but you're always hoping and praying that this time they really will change and things really will get better. If there was a way to know the signs and how serious they are from the beginning, surely you would leave right? These are the signs that you should look out for when you enter a new relationship and avoid the inevitable negative effect it will bring if you stay.
By Lo8 years ago in Humans
30 Questions for a Deeper Connection!
You think you know someone well but how can you be sure? If you read through the questions below and can't answer the questions about some of your closest friends or family, then perhaps you can use these to get to know the real them. I have a similar post to this one but this goes deeper into a person's mind—so we can consider this PART 2. Please read that one if you want to find questions that will keep a conversation going.
By The Graceful Truth8 years ago in Humans
Long Distance
Long distance relationships, wow, that's a tough subject that can go in many directions. It can be seen as never working out because of trust issues or lack of communication or missing out on the physical connection that a relationship is built on. On the other hand, it can work out if you have a strong mental connection and both sides are giving 100%. It all depends on you and how you want to pursue it. I've been in long distance relationships and personally they are not my cup of tea, but that doesn't mean I don't think they can work. I'm not going to sit here and bash on those couples or make you doubt your own relationship. I'm here to share my experiences and give some advice because as I've said before I care about you and I want to give you my full attention and my thoughts.
By Mykki D8 years ago in Humans
Abuse in Teen Relationships
In today’s age, being in a relationship while you're a teenager is perfectly normal. After being in a relationship myself for a VERY long time, I have met nearly every issue a teen relationship could have. Gas money, where you’ll go on your next date, other girls/boys, stress with grades or sports, neediness , and just plain out disrespect are just some examples. But those aren't as big as what others go through. Abusive relationships don't exactly need to be physically abusive. There are different kinds of abuse.
By Julieann Alexander8 years ago in Humans
John and Jane Find Balance
It's been a while since we paid a visit to John and Jane, two characters that represent common themes in our every day relationships. Today, we will be looking at different methods they use to balance their time. Prior to living together the balance of time and attention was one of the main arguments they had.
By Katrina Thornley8 years ago in Humans
3 Signs It's Time to Walk Away
I think we've all been there. In some sort of quasi-relationship, but plagued with the thoughts that maybe this isn't the right person for you, and you're thinking about ending the relationship.
By Heart Centered Universe8 years ago in Humans
How to Prepare for Love
If you're struggling to find a suitable partner, or if you keep attracting the same types of people that just aren't right for you, then it's time to take a big step back and go within. Oftentimes our subconscious mind has been programed (through our upbringing and experiences), and this "blueprint" is what is pushing love away from you. These blocks need to be removed before you can find true love. You owe it to yourself and to your future love to do the internal work that is necessary in order to find real, lasting love.
By Heart Centered Universe8 years ago in Humans
Best Way to Keep Long Distance Relationships Alive
From experience, as a young woman dating someone whose nights were my partner's daytimes, I've been through it all. On top of it, I've learned the best lessons from it that I couldn't have ever imagined. I learned to establish trust, patience, and to show more sincerity to make up for the lack of physical touch and the caressing that most men desire from their woman.
By M S8 years ago in Humans
Love Language and the Importance of Understanding Your Partner
I’ve often been described as hot-tempered. I’m high in emotion. Sometimes I borderline on over-sensitivity. Coming to terms with my childhood and who I’ve grown to be has proven to be more of a challenge than I would have hoped. As I’ve become the 27 year old gay that I am, I’ve realized that I center in actions more than words as the old adage says. I very seldom would say, “I love you,” because I believed my actions show the love I have. I’m not big on words pertaining to love. I can go without hearing love words and still believe that I am completely loved, because it’s the willingness to relinquish your time and energy to me that shows me. It sounds bitter, maybe misguided and jaded, but it’s legitimately how my mind works.
By Triston Dyer8 years ago in Humans
How to Be Romantic With an Introvert
I am an extremely introverted and just flat out awkward person. And my poor husband learned early on that I am not a romantic person… at least not outwardly so. I am adamant that I do not like to be touched (but I do, just only in certain ways and at certain times and by very certain people), I claim that I don’t like cliché romantic gestures, and I’ve just always been difficult at receiving love.
By Jessica Rowe8 years ago in Humans